February 16, 2023

How can Counselling Help when your Relationship has Broken Down? Part Three – Other Issues

Counselling can help couples before relationship breakdown, children during the separation, and the new families created after the separation.

Written by

Nicole Biggs

Counselling is an invaluable way of helping and exploring issues around the relationship breakdown. It can help in the following ways:

Couples– Counselling can of course also help to work out whether the relationship has irretrievably broken down. Couples counselling can help a couple to identify, work through, and move past an issue within the relationship. Couples counselling focuses on the relationship. It does not involve blame or shame for things that have happened. Instead, it helps the couple to concentrate on their relationship, the future, and refocus on the love and life they have together. Many couples say that the relationship is the strongest that it has ever been after counselling. Couples counselling can be used throughout the relationship, not just when the relationship is on life support. In fact the earlier you seek help, the better the chances of counselling leading to a strengthening of the relationship.

Children– Counselling is also of benefit to the children. Many children are confused by the breakdown of their parent’s relationship, and some may even blame themselves. Counselling can help children to navigate this very upsetting and insecure time. It can help to reassure children that they are safe and loved. It can help them to express their feelings and needs. This can then ensure that their parents hear them, are able to support them effectively, and that their needs can be taken into account in any agreement on the separation.   

New Blended Families – Starting a new life with a new partner can be daunting, especially if it means bringing two family’s together. Creating a new blended family can be tough, as there may be old resentments from the previous relationship. Each family works in a unique way, and so you will need to find a new way for your new family to work. This will take time as well as trial and error. Sometimes this process needs help, and this is where counselling can help. Counselling can be for individuals or for the family as a whole.

Breaking Patterns – Counselling can help to identify limiting beliefs or destructive habits that may have contributed to the breakdown of the relationship. It can then help you to deal with these, by either removing them or changing them. It can therefore help you to not repeat the same mistakes in any new relationship.

Counselling can therefore help throughout the process of the relationship breakdown, the separation, and building a new life afterwards.

For more information, or just a chat, please contact me on 07742 209312 or nicole@greenoaktherapies.co.uk

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