February 16, 2023

How can NLP help my mental health?

NLP is a great tool to use on yourself, on others, and others on you. It can help you understand yourself and other better, and so be more in tune.

Written by

Nicole Biggs

NLP can be used by you, or a therapist to:

  1. Really get to know yourself. Understand why you think and behave how you do. 
  2. Understand how you communicate with yourself (self-talk) and others, and how that affects both yourself and others. 
  3. Learn new communication patterns to help you become the best version of yourself and get the best out of others.
  4. Gain control of your life. Identify clear goals, and help you to reach those goals.
  5. Eliminate limiting beliefs, behaviours, thinking and decisions. 
  6. Release unwanted emotions and behaviours from the past.
  7. Align your values, build confidence and help you get and stay motivated.
  8. Improve the quality of your relationships.
  9. Model health and healing to help you to eliminate stress and anxieties from your life.
  10. Build rapport and resolve conflicts in your personal and work life. 

Therefore, NLP can help in all areas of mental health:

  • Anxiety, phobias and panic
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Confidence
  • Relationships
  • Performance & Motivation
  • Breaking Habits
  • Self-Awareness and Self-Development

One of the basic premises of NLP is that the words we use reflect an inner, unconscious perception of our problems. Any information we take in or give out (through language) is filtered by our minds. These filters distort, delete and generalise the information according to our beliefs. Therefore, we see the world how we want to see it. We then in turn communicate in ways which show our inner thoughts and beliefs.

I am sure that everyone will relate to one of my recent experiences. I have purchased a red mini car, and now when I am out and about, I see so many red minis. This is not because all of a sudden everyone has rushed out to buy red minis (I am not that good an influencer!). Instead, I notice the red minis more, as they are not filtered out from the information I receive from my surroundings by my mind. 

By being aware of how our minds filter out things, we can change this so that we take in more information. It can also help to uncover any limiting beliefs you may have, and then take action to change them.

NLP encourages you to not just listen to the words being said by someone. To open up your perception and take in their body language and how they are saying the words. This helps you to understand the person better. It is found that words only make up 7% of our communication, the physiology of someone accounts for 55%, and the tone of their voice is 38%. Therefore, it is likely that in a normal interaction you will miss 93% of what is being communicated if you just concentrate on the words being said. It is far more likely that there will be a miscommunication and you will not be able to achieve your outcome for having the conversation. We all communicate in order to achieve an outcome. This could be to make a friend, to comfort a child, to teach someone a skill, or to manage someone at work.

Another aspect of NLP is the understanding that our experiences are filtered through our senses, and that we often favour one of our senses. You can tell which sense is favoured by someone by noticing all of the modes of communication (the words we use, our body language, and the tone of our voices). For instance, someone who favours their visual sense will often say things like: ‘I see what you mean’ or ‘let’s look at the bigger picture’. If you are paying attention and notice this, you can then ensure that you communicate effectively with that person by using ‘their’ language. It can also be invaluable in getting to know yourself, and so enabling you to use the right language to get the best from yourself.

For more information, or just a chat, please contact me on 07742 209312 or nicole@greenoaktherapies.co.uk

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